Blogger, A Road Less Traveled...
Growing up in the 80s, family trips to the local shopping mall usually involved my brothers and I heading to the arcade and playing video games until our parents gave us the sign that it was time to go. For this ten year old, it was sweet music to my ears as the fresh quarters rattled around in the coin dispenser, the converted dollar bills courtesy of Mom and Dad. My time and quarters were spent playing mostly sports-themed games, as not much else really piqued my interest.
After I spent my last quarter, I’d wander over to the game “Gauntlet,” not to play, but to watch for a few minutes until it was officially time to leave. “Gauntlet” was very different from “Tecmo Bowl” and the other sports games I usually gravitated toward; rather than trying to beat another team by scoring more points, it was about pure survival.
My eyes were always drawn to each player’s score, highlighted in big red numbers, usually rapidly descending as players struggled to complete the various levels. There was one memorable phrase I remember from the game: “Your life force is running out!” It was uttered by the computer narrator whenever a player’s health had decreased to a threatening level. As I watched, I’d try to predict in my head at what precise moment the computer would start providing this ominous and repetitive alert.
SO TIRED OF BEING TIRED
For those with MS, energy is a prized resource, available only in limited quantities. Read any medical definition of multiple sclerosis and “fatigue” will be listed as one of the more common symptoms. The quotes are an intentional and caustic nod to this word; personally, I find the term “fatigue” lacking in accuracy and descriptive affect on the realities of living with MS.
Webster’s defines fatigue as “weariness or exhaustion from labor, exertion or stress,” but with MS no exertion is required to enter a state of exhaustion; rather, weariness is constant - a baseline. Normal, daily routines, like showering and shaving, are obstacles to be planned for and managed, all in the name of preserving my energy. Even on my best days, I regularly feel the dark cloud of exhaustion hovering, tempting me to surrender and retreat to a dark and quiet spot, isolated from others.
One moment I’m reading a story to my children or enjoying a dinner with my wife … then suddenly, my energy has vanished, my bones feel cold and achy, my mind is hazy, unable to think clearly. Often, I worry that my children think I’m ignoring them, my friends and family feel I’m disinterested, or new acquaintances wonder why I seem so tired and unengaged.
MY OWN GAUNTLET
But what if I had my own colored indicator, floating above my head, clearly identifying my energy level? My “life force” would blink in big numbers, and a friendly alert would go off when a low level was reached, notifying me and others that my energy was tapped out or, as with most days, surviving on fumes.
Understandably, some might hesitate to broadcast their personal battle, a scarlet MS for all to see. But it would also be a portal for seeing through the MS looking glass, easing confusion and misunderstanding, highlighting our strength in battle and a wonderful way to educate ourselves and others on the moment-by-moment struggle we face against our own bodies.
In 2008, Michael Wentink was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. At 31, he was a new father, a recent MBA graduate and a Director at a Fortune 500 company. MS altered this path and after an early retirement, Michael is now navigating life on a road less traveled. A native of Northern Virginia, Michael currently resides in San Antonio, Texas with his wife and two young children. Read about his journey with multiple sclerosis at mjwentink.com.